You’re Not a Problem to Solve

Let me say this plainly, right from the start.

Most women I know didn’t walk into this year broken. They walked in tired. Tired of feeling like every new season comes with a checklist. Tired of being told, directly or subtly, that something about them still needs work.

January has a way of doing that. Everywhere you look, there’s a message telling you to fix something. Your habits. Your body. Your marriage. Your faith. Even rest starts to sound like an assignment.

And at some point, you start wondering: What if nothing is actually wrong with me? What if the exhaustion isn’t a flaw, but a signal?

This space exists because a lot of women don’t need another plan. They need someone to notice. Sometimes, you don’t need fixing. You need witness.

Fixing Isn’t Always Helpful

When we talk about fixing ourselves, we’re usually assuming something is broken. And sure—growth matters. Accountability matters. Healing matters.

But constantly approaching women like unfinished projects does real damage. Mothers are told to be more patient. Wives are told to communicate better. Women of faith are told to surrender more, trust more, pray harder. Always more.

But very rarely do we pause and ask: What if she’s already showing up the best she can with what she has?

A lot of women aren’t resisting growth. They’re just carrying way more than anyone sees. Fixing skips past that. Witness stays with it.

God Usually Starts With Seeing

This is one of the things I love most about Scripture. God doesn’t rush people into change. He starts by seeing them.

Hagar is seen before she’s sent back. Hannah is heard before anything about her life improves. Mary is affirmed before she understands what obedience will cost her. Even Jesus, before He teaches, before He heals, before He proves anything, hears:

“This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased.” Matthew 3:17

Nothing accomplished yet. No résumé. No results. Just presence. That matters more than we realize.

Witness Isn’t Avoidance

Let’s clear this up. Witness doesn’t mean pretending things are fine when they’re not. It

doesn’t mean avoiding responsibility or staying stuck. It means starting from truth instead of shame. Jesus did this constantly.

He noticed people before correcting them. He protected dignity before addressing behavior. He stayed long enough for people to feel seen.

Women are taught early to manage everything. To read the room. To anticipate needs. To smooth things over. We carry emotional labor that never gets named. Faithfulness that never gets acknowledged. Strength that gets expected.

So let me ask something honestly: When was the last time someone looked at you and said,

“I see how much you’re holding.” Not to fix it. Not to solve it. Just to see it.

The God Who Sees Hasn’t Stopped

Hagar names God El Roi: the God who sees. Not the God who rushes. Not the God who minimizes. The God who sees.

Seeing doesn’t mean everything changes overnight. It means nothing about your interior life is ignored. God sees the prayers you don’t say out loud. The faith you keep practicing quietly. The devotion that doesn’t get applause.

And He stays.

What Mama y Mana Is Here For

This isn’t a space for hustle-healing or spiritual performance. It’s a place for honesty. For growth that doesn’t feel forced. For faith that fits into real life.

Here, we start with witness. Because women who are truly seen don’t need to be pushed into becoming.

They grow when it’s safe.

So maybe this year doesn’t start with fixing anything. Maybe it starts with telling the truth. With naming what’s actually there. With letting yourself be seen, by God, and maybe even by yourself. If God begins with witness, we can too. That might be the most faithful place to start.

xx

Santa Naisha